since the start of the school year i got to like a certain girl. i mean we talk, we eat together, and such things. then, i sort of, got discouraged because there was this certain guy who was always with her. i backed off, or something like that. thinking that in case she may not be with me, at least she could be with someone more deserving than me. then here comes someone. we've been chatting for almost two months now, and you know what i mean. as if we are friends, but i assume that she knows that i like her. of course we already saw each other. we even went to a movie together. now here comes my friends. they keep on pushing me to go for the first girl. they say we look cute together(lol), and since we have been friends for a long time, there would be less difficulty in dealing with relationships. they also say that, well, she likes me too, she just doesn't talk about it. i just don't know what to do. help me.

i'm so happy that you're not loveless anymore. but i'm also sad for two things: 1) i have one less member; and 2) you have one heck of a problem.

anyway, i know that it's hard to choose between your old friend/crush/love and your new friend/crush/love. First things first, ask yourself some questions.
1) are u sure 'bout how u feel for girl #1?
2) do u really like/love #1?
3) are u sure 'bout how u feel for girl #2?
4) do u really like/love her or did you just fall for her 'coz of ur prob w/ #1? give yourself some time.

don't mind other people because whatever u decide on don't really affect them (do u honestly think that u can have a healthy relationship w/ someone just because you look cute together?). listen to them but don't rely on them to decide 4 u.

now, if both girls like u. good, but be frank to the one you didn't choose. you can't have them both at the same time. if only one likes u but u don't like her anymore. choose, and its not a matter of who would make you happier or who you love or who loves you but its a matter of with whom would you be a better person/boyfriend.

maintain both friendships but u have to choose. don't decide when they are already confrontational. choose as soon as possible.

if you feel that u r confused, that u can't possibly chose and that u can't face the consequences of any decision you might make, then don't decide on who to court. just explain to them and and your friends how u feel. be sincere and though they might not understand u right now, its really is for them not yourself. 'coz if u hastily choose or make a decision u might be unfair to the one you choose if u realize late ron that shes not the one for u. when you have chosen, explain yourself and your decision to both but don't expect both of them to understand you right away, esp the one you didn't choose. it might take time for her (the one u didn't choose) to accept your decision. what is impt that u be sincere and sure about your decision.

remember that no matter how bad everything gets, there's still hope. if everything does not turn out the way u wanted it to be, don't think its the end of the world coz life was made to be unpredictable for if it always turned out the way u wanted it to be then what would we live for if not the questions and mystery that each day brings.

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