just wanted to ask, what do you think should you do if you happen to like a close friend of yours but afraid to make a move 'coz it might destroy the relationship?

ASSESS THE SITUATION! THINK B4 YOU TAKE ACTION!
If your friend is a really nice and understading person, here's what you should do: DO not try to interpret her actions as signals that is not good because not everything she does may be deliberate.

HONESTY is the BEST POLICY, base your relationship or possible relationship on trust and understanding...talk to her and tell her how you feel. she would understand. Do it in your own way. It may be in a seious or joking manner. The important thing is be yourself and be SINCERE (girls and guys love that). Now there are several responses she may have to this.
(1) She might freak out - don't get discouraged she might just be confused and she doesn't know how to handle the situation, give her time to think;
(2) Thanks but no thanks - she appreciates the admiration but she doesn't really like you that much - again, don't be discouraged, woo her, capture her fancy, but if she tells you to stop, STOP!
(3) She likes you back - OK, but don't get overwhelmed. give it time but don't run away. Make sure that she does like/love u and she's not just giving in to you or is just swept by you...
(4) She disses you - she is not worthy of your friendship after all, but then again she may just be confused...give her time to settle down and absorb the situation...but if she really doesn't give you time and seems to forget u were friends once then remember: THERE R OTHER FISH IN THE SEA which are BETTER! attempt to be her friend again but do not, if possible, try to court her again...it may just wrosen the case. unles,of course, if she realizes that she does like u (that is, if u still like her).
(5) She likes you back but can't commit at the moment - give her time!

Don't just send signals, most girls are oblivious you know and those that aren't are afraid that they are reading you wrongly.
SO, TELL HER!!! If you don't want to spend most of your future life in regret, TRY. If you fail, at least you tried.

Losing your friendship is a definitely high price to pay...anyway, if you decide to pursue the girl here are some
TIPS ON COURTING:
1) ACT NORMAL around her. Treat her as you would treat other people. Don't just put your best foot forward. Showing that u have weaknesses shows that you r indeed just a person & that you r not just out to get her.
2) DO NOT CENTER your life on her. Nobody, no matter, how special he/she is, is worth more than you are. Show him/her that you can stand in your own feet. BUT DON'T be proud. Show her that she would make your life better and your could make hers better but that her turning you down wouldn't make you a lesser person. After all what is life if not for the pains and sufferings. What doesn't kill you only makes you stronger, doesn't it?
3) DO the UNEXPECTED. Giving roses, chocolates, cards, poems are so passe'. Since you know her so well (I assume), give her something that u know she has been wanting for a long time, but make it seem effortless. TRYING too hard is a major turn-off. Being part of the multitudes of people who receive roses daily isn't a major turn-on you know. It would just make the person feel ordinary. If you want to give her flowers, give daisies, mums, orchids, wild flowers (not poisonous, make sure she isn't allergic to it), preferably hand-picked and not arranged by someone else. Chocolates? hmmm...fine but its also just so NORMAL, unless she really likes them. Poems are better but make it something personal, don't make her sound like a god and you a mere admirer. Commercial cards don't really capture what you really want to say make it personalized. Don't just give any of the above on occasions and definitely not daily. Give her gifts that are unexpensive yet heartfelt on random days and special occasions (of course).
4) LESS IS MORE! Don't be too extravagant. Don't spend all your money on her and have nothing to eat. The essence of giving is showing admiration not showing how much you've got.
5) RESPECT her. Show her that it really doesn't matter if she likes you back. Show her that you will respect her no matter how she feels about you.
6) GIVE HER TIME to think and to absorb everything.

WHAT IS LIFE?

Life is what you make of it. So there, spend the most out of your life. But remember there are gonna be people who will try to pull u down. Don't you let them do that!!!

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