im in luv wiith my bestfrend!!i didnt know about it til he had a gf !!!! now her gfs doing evrything she can 2 destroy our frendship (even if not much is left of it... thanks 2 her!)... wat should i do!!!
--mhaxi

It might seem to you that you are in a very difficult situation but you're not. There are a lot of people out there who are suffering much more than you are right now. But since I you asked for it, here it goes...

First, why is this gf destroying your friendship w/ her bf? 'Coz she's insecure and she sees you as a threat...doesn't it feel good that she sees you that way? Assess the situation and do not declare war with his gf (it wouldn't help).

Second Point, set your priorities. Once you decide you want to be his bestfriend again, set your mind on it and don't expect anything more. READ: don't try to be his bestfriend again and then try to steal him from his gf...show to him that he means much to you and if he is not a jerk he would also initiate his own reconciliation scheme...if you do become bestfriends or just friends again, befriend his gf too, for all you know she might be a great person and may even become your best friend...but if he treats you as dirt and doesn't even smile at you...then, drop him...take a back seat and just wait till they break-up when he comes running back to you...if he does come running back to u crying...don't go on and on backbiting the gf, instead rebuild your relationship w/ the guy and if possible, help him heal his heart...give him time and space do not immediately tell him you love him so much that would only make him more confused...

...But if you're hell-bent on being his gf...that's kind of difficult but do not ever launch into schemes similar to what Julia Roberts did in "my bestfriend's wedding", that wouldn't be original and it wouldn't work...instead, show him that he needs you and that he's better off with you without looking or sounding too desperate...if you're very open to each other, tell him how u feel..if he avoids you, find another guy...if he realizes he feels the same way, don't be overwhelmed it may take time before he breaks up w/ his current gf (most guys are like that u know)...but before you have a love relationship with him make sure that he broke up w/ the other girl so u wouldn't look like the antagonist and make sure that he really feels the same way that you do and that he's not just taking advantage of you...but if he tells you that he doesn't feel the same way, then, just be his friend, continue on loving him and support him...after all, love is letting go and there are other fish in the ocean...but do not drop him just because of that...

Third Point, whatever happens, the good memories you had together will always be there and whatever his gf does those will never change, if everything does not turn out the way you wanted it to be...just think of the good times you had, but move on, widen your horizons and get over him...your soulmate might just be standing by and waiting for you...

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